A week ago, I had an opportunity to be the audience of an unsuspecting duo. It was such a pleasure watching them. I still smile thinking about them as I write. It was a beloved father and his beloved daughter. What a joy!
This two just kept enjoying their company, singing to each other, playing games and laughing, and cuddling too! She would be a six (6) year old, I presume, and he, probably in his forties. It was a huge pleasure to see the pure love between them, simply pure, and beautiful.
I was reminded of a relationship, the relationship I'm to share with my Heavenly Father. I could just picture how much my Heavenly Father must love me, and enjoy my presence. I asked myself if I give Him the time needed for our relationship to blossom, and I purposed in my heart to be deliberate about our relationship and enjoy it thoroughly, mutually.
I encourage you to do same. He's waiting.
Live deliberately. Live well.
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Thursday 7 July 2016
Monday 20 June 2016
SELF DISCOVERY
I'm learning EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. One important thing I have learned is that we learn from observing more than from what people say, and that is because some people are still trying to discover themselves.
It's funny how you know someone so well, but the person does not know themselves half as much.
Next time you are looking for validation, look within. You may not get it from the person you expect because they too, are still trying to discover themselves, and their opinion of you may be unreliable. There is so much we save ourselves from if we would just look within.
You know your passions better than anyone. So, when you are trying to find what will bring you pleasure, being in another person's company may not just cut it. Go on a journey to discover yourself, and when you do, make the best of that knowledge!
Live deliberately. Live well.
Share your thoughts.
It's funny how you know someone so well, but the person does not know themselves half as much.
Next time you are looking for validation, look within. You may not get it from the person you expect because they too, are still trying to discover themselves, and their opinion of you may be unreliable. There is so much we save ourselves from if we would just look within.
You know your passions better than anyone. So, when you are trying to find what will bring you pleasure, being in another person's company may not just cut it. Go on a journey to discover yourself, and when you do, make the best of that knowledge!
Live deliberately. Live well.
Share your thoughts.
Sunday 5 June 2016
RAINY DAYS
Ordinary ... Normal ... Routine ... These words characterize some days for some people, depending on what type of day you have, but some days are Extraordinary ... Unique ... Outstanding .... Then we have the Unpleasant ... Dreary ... Abnormal ... Unlikely days; those days you are not just sure you can go on ...
Well, for as long as you are on this side of eternity ( you should believe there is an eternity, we didn't fall from the skies or shoot out from the earth ), there will be days you just are not sure you can make it. I think those are life's rainy days. Hang in there, you are not alone. You will make it.
T.B.C
Live deliberately. Live well.
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Well, for as long as you are on this side of eternity ( you should believe there is an eternity, we didn't fall from the skies or shoot out from the earth ), there will be days you just are not sure you can make it. I think those are life's rainy days. Hang in there, you are not alone. You will make it.
T.B.C
Live deliberately. Live well.
Share your thoughts.
Tuesday 17 May 2016
LIFE REGULATORS
Dear reader,
What regulates your life? This question has realigned a lot of my decisions. Just when I think my actions are void of fear or bias, I'm reminded that the reason behind or for my action(s), is the regulator at that point in time.
Some time ago, I wrote about "Illiterate Opinions", well, if the reason behind or for your action(s) is an ill-informed mindset, or a preconceived notion that was formed in error, you can be sure that the said action will be full of loopholes.
It is important that one's values are based on timeless qualities, and ideals that have stood the test of time, and are true. It is important that one's life is not based on a fallacy, or an erroneous view of a spiritually, intellectually and emotionally malnourished few.
The regulator of your life is bound to be the 'silent' guide for your life's journey. Be very conscious of what your subconscious agrees to, and suggests to you. Nothing is a coincidence. Every choice has consequences. Someone other than you may pay for it, but every choice sure has consequences.
Live deliberately. Live well.
Share your thoughts.
What regulates your life? This question has realigned a lot of my decisions. Just when I think my actions are void of fear or bias, I'm reminded that the reason behind or for my action(s), is the regulator at that point in time.
Some time ago, I wrote about "Illiterate Opinions", well, if the reason behind or for your action(s) is an ill-informed mindset, or a preconceived notion that was formed in error, you can be sure that the said action will be full of loopholes.
It is important that one's values are based on timeless qualities, and ideals that have stood the test of time, and are true. It is important that one's life is not based on a fallacy, or an erroneous view of a spiritually, intellectually and emotionally malnourished few.
The regulator of your life is bound to be the 'silent' guide for your life's journey. Be very conscious of what your subconscious agrees to, and suggests to you. Nothing is a coincidence. Every choice has consequences. Someone other than you may pay for it, but every choice sure has consequences.
Live deliberately. Live well.
Share your thoughts.
Friday 6 May 2016
FREEDOM
Some days ago, I had an encounter that made me understand just how valuable freedom is. It is amazing how we take very important things for granted, that some people consider a rare privilege.
Freedom ... it is exhilarating, really! I met someone, a detainee, who was ordered around by security operatives. My heart went out for him, but that is the most I could do in the circumstance. A million and one questions shot through my mind, like, how does someone lose their freedom just like that? What is his life like right now, always being watched and behind bars and all those restrictions ... Hmm... Freedom is simply priceless.
I'm grateful for the gifts I ordinarily take for granted, and I want to inspire everyone reading to value all these seemingly 'normal' gifts.
Live deliberately, Live well.
Share your thoughts.
Freedom ... it is exhilarating, really! I met someone, a detainee, who was ordered around by security operatives. My heart went out for him, but that is the most I could do in the circumstance. A million and one questions shot through my mind, like, how does someone lose their freedom just like that? What is his life like right now, always being watched and behind bars and all those restrictions ... Hmm... Freedom is simply priceless.
I'm grateful for the gifts I ordinarily take for granted, and I want to inspire everyone reading to value all these seemingly 'normal' gifts.
Live deliberately, Live well.
Share your thoughts.
Tuesday 12 April 2016
Illiterate Opinions
This title made me giggle. It's atrocious how miffed some people can be over other people's opinions of them. Permit me to say that some of these opinions of you are illiterate. Let's dissect the word :
Merriam-Webster. Full Definition of illiterate
1: having little or no education; especially : unable to read or write <an illiterate population>
2a : showing or marked by a lack of familiarity with language and literature <an illiterate magazine> b : violating approved patterns of speaking or write
3: showing or marked by a lack of acquaintance with the fundamentals of a particular field of knowledge <musically illiterate>
illiterate noun
il·lit·er·ate·ly adverb
il·lit·er·ate·ness noun
Some people's opinion about you should not receive the honour of a second thought not to talk of a consideration! You underrate yourself when you allow those opinions the luxury of staying in your mind. They do not know you, so they cannot just pass their opinion of you and you accept it. They are uneducated about you. The presence of a mouth does not validate an utterance. Unnecessary stress is what you invite when you entertain an illiterate opinion of yourself. Screen everything you allow into your being, the purity and peace of your whole being - spirit, soul and body - is priority to your well-being.
This is my two pence/kobo/shile/toro/shishi.
Live deliberately. Live well.
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Merriam-Webster. Full Definition of illiterate
1: having little or no education; especially : unable to read or write <an illiterate population>
2a : showing or marked by a lack of familiarity with language and literature <an illiterate magazine> b : violating approved patterns of speaking or write
3: showing or marked by a lack of acquaintance with the fundamentals of a particular field of knowledge <musically illiterate>
illiterate noun
il·lit·er·ate·ly adverb
il·lit·er·ate·ness noun
Some people's opinion about you should not receive the honour of a second thought not to talk of a consideration! You underrate yourself when you allow those opinions the luxury of staying in your mind. They do not know you, so they cannot just pass their opinion of you and you accept it. They are uneducated about you. The presence of a mouth does not validate an utterance. Unnecessary stress is what you invite when you entertain an illiterate opinion of yourself. Screen everything you allow into your being, the purity and peace of your whole being - spirit, soul and body - is priority to your well-being.
This is my two pence/kobo/shile/toro/shishi.
Live deliberately. Live well.
Share your thoughts.
Friday 18 March 2016
BOAT ROCKING INCIDENCES
Has something rocked your boat recently, you thought you were gonna lose it? Something as threatening as an earthquake?
Interesting thing about life is that challenges come to the best of us. Challenges are relative though, because, what rocks your boat may just be a common breeze to me, and vice versa, but what is constant is that everyone, in our different capacities encounter challenges that seem overwhelming sometimes.
If I can borrow from my last post, what we choose to do, and how we choose to address these challenges is what would matter.
What are you doing with your mind right now? What occupies your thoughts? How are you investing in your mind? The answer to these questions determine how well we cope when our boat is rocking.
Fill your mind with gainful thoughts, materials, people. Fill your circle with beneficial, advantageous people, and be one too. Rub off, and be rubbed off on.
God is one always, always, always dependable being that will keep your boat afloat, and in safety. It does great good to fill our thoughts with God when our boat is rocking.
Live deliberately. Live well.
Share your thoughts.
Interesting thing about life is that challenges come to the best of us. Challenges are relative though, because, what rocks your boat may just be a common breeze to me, and vice versa, but what is constant is that everyone, in our different capacities encounter challenges that seem overwhelming sometimes.
If I can borrow from my last post, what we choose to do, and how we choose to address these challenges is what would matter.
What are you doing with your mind right now? What occupies your thoughts? How are you investing in your mind? The answer to these questions determine how well we cope when our boat is rocking.
Fill your mind with gainful thoughts, materials, people. Fill your circle with beneficial, advantageous people, and be one too. Rub off, and be rubbed off on.
God is one always, always, always dependable being that will keep your boat afloat, and in safety. It does great good to fill our thoughts with God when our boat is rocking.
Live deliberately. Live well.
Share your thoughts.
Friday 11 March 2016
hephzibelle: FREQUENT MAYBES?
hephzibelle: FREQUENT MAYBES?: My dear reader, are you torn in between many uncertain thoughts or places? You are not alone. It is what you choose to do with this status t...
FREQUENT MAYBES?
My dear reader, are you torn in between many uncertain thoughts or places? You are not alone. It is what you choose to do with this status that makes the difference. Yes, what you choose.
As overwhelmed as you may feel right now, it is understandable, because s/he who wears the shoes knows exactly where it hurts, but like I mentioned earlier, it feels overwhelming, but you are not alone. The state of your mind at every 'maybe' point is what determines how you respond to the challenges that come your way. This goes without saying that your state of mind is important at every point in time as it dictates your balance, which in turn gives you a clear path to progress on. Investment in your mind, should therefore be a priority.
Don't feel lost when you encounter barriers on your path, they are a part of your success story. Be encouraged. Invest in your Spirit, invest in your mind, and you will have a ready answer when those 'maybes' come knocking again.
Live deliberately. Live well.
Share your thoughts.
As overwhelmed as you may feel right now, it is understandable, because s/he who wears the shoes knows exactly where it hurts, but like I mentioned earlier, it feels overwhelming, but you are not alone. The state of your mind at every 'maybe' point is what determines how you respond to the challenges that come your way. This goes without saying that your state of mind is important at every point in time as it dictates your balance, which in turn gives you a clear path to progress on. Investment in your mind, should therefore be a priority.
Don't feel lost when you encounter barriers on your path, they are a part of your success story. Be encouraged. Invest in your Spirit, invest in your mind, and you will have a ready answer when those 'maybes' come knocking again.
Live deliberately. Live well.
Share your thoughts.
Wednesday 24 February 2016
WOMAN
I wrote this title and paused, thought and took in a deep breath. Simple, yet cumbersome topic, controversial, misunderstood, sweet ... so many oxymorons, yet very inspiring and inspirational.
Woman! Everyone proceeded from one, so we all are familiar with her. You can call this a tribute to woman, you can even say it's partial or deserved ... that is part of the topic! (laughs)
As everywhere as a woman seems to be, some people have been unable to unravel this dynamic blend of wonder in one gender.
As a child, I had my misgivings about being one, because I saw how misunderstood a woman can be, and how unappreciated her efforts are. I may be biased being a woman, but that was the way it appeared when I saw how many unnecessary restrictions the society places on her, and how the phrase, "a man's world" seemed to echo louder every time one of those restrictions were activated.
Times have changed, traditions have been modernized and modified, but that tag still hangs like an odor that has refused to fade. I used to be interested in being an activist, but mother talked it out of me ... (laughs), but really, whenever an injustice is being meted to a woman, the silent man/woman is a party to that injustice. (That is the activist in me rising ... lol!)
A beauty of creation is what a woman is, so many thoughts trying to gain ascendancy as I think about woman, a woman is a gift, a treasure, and should be treated as one.
Share your thoughts.
Woman! Everyone proceeded from one, so we all are familiar with her. You can call this a tribute to woman, you can even say it's partial or deserved ... that is part of the topic! (laughs)
As everywhere as a woman seems to be, some people have been unable to unravel this dynamic blend of wonder in one gender.
As a child, I had my misgivings about being one, because I saw how misunderstood a woman can be, and how unappreciated her efforts are. I may be biased being a woman, but that was the way it appeared when I saw how many unnecessary restrictions the society places on her, and how the phrase, "a man's world" seemed to echo louder every time one of those restrictions were activated.
Times have changed, traditions have been modernized and modified, but that tag still hangs like an odor that has refused to fade. I used to be interested in being an activist, but mother talked it out of me ... (laughs), but really, whenever an injustice is being meted to a woman, the silent man/woman is a party to that injustice. (That is the activist in me rising ... lol!)
A beauty of creation is what a woman is, so many thoughts trying to gain ascendancy as I think about woman, a woman is a gift, a treasure, and should be treated as one.
Share your thoughts.
Sunday 14 February 2016
VALUE
Perception makes a whole world of difference. It determines worth. It is relative. The worth you place on something or someone determines their value to you. This goes a long way in determining how precious or irrelevant it is (they are) to you. Interestingly, your perception of a person or an item does not translate to the real value of that person or item, it only means that your value system is flawed. Discounting what is valuable, which you have been unable to discern, just means you get to enjoy little or nothing of that person or item.
Don't lose out on what is valuable just because you were unable to identify it. Some opportunities are a 'once in a lifetime'.
Live deliberately. Live well.
Share your thoughts.
Don't lose out on what is valuable just because you were unable to identify it. Some opportunities are a 'once in a lifetime'.
Live deliberately. Live well.
Share your thoughts.
Saturday 6 February 2016
The Journey to Grey (contd)
Long time o (that's a part of our greeting in this part of the world).These posts are few and far between, something has to be done about them...
Part of making progress on the journey to grey, is taking action(s) in line with decision(s). It is following up on those plans that make the day count, and worthwhile. I believe in one step at a time, just move from where you were. Staying on the same spot after a long while will feel disappointing when you realise time has been consumed.
You may not be at the place you want to be yet, just don't remain where you have been for years. You will be proud of yourself when you look back and see how far you have come. Don't waste an opportunity to make evident progress.
These opportunities are presented everyday. It is said that they show up in work clothes so they sometimes are not easily identifiable.
I have realised that when one is interested in something, one's area of interest keeps showing up and that should be because that is what is priority on one's mind.
I want to encourage you, as I also encourage myself. It is said, that "the opportunity of a lifetime must be seized within the lifetime of the opportunity". Will there be challenges? Of course! Can you surmount them? Definitely! There is a God that rules in the affairs of men, receive His strength. Don't be swayed by the challenges, it is a part of life and a part of your story that makes victory sweet.
I've said enough on this, or what I have said is sufficient. It is your turn, share your thoughts, let's learn from you.
Part of making progress on the journey to grey, is taking action(s) in line with decision(s). It is following up on those plans that make the day count, and worthwhile. I believe in one step at a time, just move from where you were. Staying on the same spot after a long while will feel disappointing when you realise time has been consumed.
You may not be at the place you want to be yet, just don't remain where you have been for years. You will be proud of yourself when you look back and see how far you have come. Don't waste an opportunity to make evident progress.
These opportunities are presented everyday. It is said that they show up in work clothes so they sometimes are not easily identifiable.
I have realised that when one is interested in something, one's area of interest keeps showing up and that should be because that is what is priority on one's mind.
I want to encourage you, as I also encourage myself. It is said, that "the opportunity of a lifetime must be seized within the lifetime of the opportunity". Will there be challenges? Of course! Can you surmount them? Definitely! There is a God that rules in the affairs of men, receive His strength. Don't be swayed by the challenges, it is a part of life and a part of your story that makes victory sweet.
I've said enough on this, or what I have said is sufficient. It is your turn, share your thoughts, let's learn from you.
Saturday 23 January 2016
The Journey to Grey...
This topic has been on my mind the whole week and I decided to put my thoughts out and process them here. So, here they are...
Why 'journey to grey'? Think about it. When really does this journey start?
The day we let out our first cry on our first appearance on this earth, we embarked on that journey. Every day of our lives, is a day closer to greying. What differentiates one day from the other in our lives? Nothing. The choices we make and the way we spend our time, is the only distinguishing factor in each day. Greying comes suddenly, for some people. Before you are even aware of it, the times have changed and the years have passed. Suddenly, ten (10) or twenty (20) years ago feels like yesterday. Only the use of our time makes the difference.
Living deliberately cannot be over-emphasized, living like each day would be a landmark in one's life, living like each day actually mattered, because it does.
... to be continued
Share your thoughts.
Why 'journey to grey'? Think about it. When really does this journey start?
The day we let out our first cry on our first appearance on this earth, we embarked on that journey. Every day of our lives, is a day closer to greying. What differentiates one day from the other in our lives? Nothing. The choices we make and the way we spend our time, is the only distinguishing factor in each day. Greying comes suddenly, for some people. Before you are even aware of it, the times have changed and the years have passed. Suddenly, ten (10) or twenty (20) years ago feels like yesterday. Only the use of our time makes the difference.
Living deliberately cannot be over-emphasized, living like each day would be a landmark in one's life, living like each day actually mattered, because it does.
... to be continued
Share your thoughts.
Saturday 9 January 2016
InSeCuRiTy
Times have changed, I think. When insecurity is heard these days, one of the first things that come to mind is terrorists, bombs, killings and the like.
There's another type of insecurity, it is with regards the emotions. Emotional insecurity does not start in one day. It is a process, and it blossoms when it is fed with what it wants to perceive.
The fruits of insecurity are constant misconceptions, distrust, miscommunication, and all these affect any blossoming relationship.
When one is convinced that someone cannot be trusted, and begins to see the need to stalk the person, it is a major mark of insecurity; strangely, these convictions may be founded on fallacy and misunderstandings. This may be debated or debatable, but this is my opinion about it. I feel it is very important to be secure in oneself, and not need the affirmation of another person's actions or inactions.
It may be disappointing to observe certain traits in someone, but it does not automatically term to losing one's peace over it. Be secure in who you are, be happy and be free.
In the event you have fallen victim to insecurity and it's traits, it is possible to be free from it. A living example is sharing her opinion.
Share your thoughts, I would like to learn from you.
There's another type of insecurity, it is with regards the emotions. Emotional insecurity does not start in one day. It is a process, and it blossoms when it is fed with what it wants to perceive.
The fruits of insecurity are constant misconceptions, distrust, miscommunication, and all these affect any blossoming relationship.
When one is convinced that someone cannot be trusted, and begins to see the need to stalk the person, it is a major mark of insecurity; strangely, these convictions may be founded on fallacy and misunderstandings. This may be debated or debatable, but this is my opinion about it. I feel it is very important to be secure in oneself, and not need the affirmation of another person's actions or inactions.
It may be disappointing to observe certain traits in someone, but it does not automatically term to losing one's peace over it. Be secure in who you are, be happy and be free.
In the event you have fallen victim to insecurity and it's traits, it is possible to be free from it. A living example is sharing her opinion.
Share your thoughts, I would like to learn from you.
Saturday 2 January 2016
Here We Are!
Here we are, two weeks after my last post, and it is a new year!
Wow! How time flies right?
Every new year, we are presented with the opportunity to re-strategize and do certain things better than we did the previous year. Just as every day gives us a clean sheet to write on, so does a new year.
Some see them as resolutions; promises to themselves to make changes in their lives.
You probably want to know if I have a resolution... Well...I'm thinking in terms of better relationships, working as a team in the relationships that require teamwork, and pursue the dreams and desires I have either ignored, or been too scared to acknowledge. I desire to at least, start, and see them flesh up.
These thoughts team up in my mind, and I'm planning to skin them and live them out!
How about you?
Wow! How time flies right?
Every new year, we are presented with the opportunity to re-strategize and do certain things better than we did the previous year. Just as every day gives us a clean sheet to write on, so does a new year.
Some see them as resolutions; promises to themselves to make changes in their lives.
You probably want to know if I have a resolution... Well...I'm thinking in terms of better relationships, working as a team in the relationships that require teamwork, and pursue the dreams and desires I have either ignored, or been too scared to acknowledge. I desire to at least, start, and see them flesh up.
These thoughts team up in my mind, and I'm planning to skin them and live them out!
How about you?
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