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hephzibelle: FREQUENT MAYBES?: My dear reader, are you torn in between many uncertain thoughts or places? You are not alone. It is what you choose to do with this status t...

FREQUENT MAYBES?

My dear reader, are you torn in between many uncertain thoughts or places? You are not alone. It is what you choose to do with this status that makes the difference. Yes, what you choose.

As overwhelmed as you may feel right now, it is understandable, because s/he who wears the shoes knows exactly where it hurts, but like I mentioned earlier, it feels overwhelming, but you are not alone. The state of your mind at every 'maybe' point is what determines how you respond to the challenges that come your way. This goes without saying that your state of mind is important at every point in time as it dictates your balance, which in turn gives you a clear path to progress on. Investment in your mind, should therefore be a priority.

Don't feel lost when you encounter barriers on your path, they are a part of your success story. Be encouraged. Invest in your Spirit, invest in your mind, and you will have a ready answer when those 'maybes' come knocking again.

Live deliberately. Live well.

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WOMAN

I wrote this title and paused, thought and took in a deep breath. Simple, yet cumbersome topic, controversial, misunderstood, sweet ... so many oxymorons, yet very inspiring and inspirational.

Woman! Everyone proceeded from one, so we all are familiar with her. You can call this a tribute to woman, you can even say it's partial or deserved ... that is part of the topic! (laughs)

As everywhere as a woman seems to be, some people have been unable to unravel this dynamic blend of wonder in one gender.

As a child, I had my misgivings about being one, because I saw how misunderstood a woman can be, and how unappreciated her efforts are. I may be biased being a woman, but that was the way it appeared when I saw how many unnecessary restrictions the society places on her, and how the phrase, "a man's world" seemed to echo louder every time one of those restrictions were activated.

Times have changed, traditions have been modernized and modified, but that tag still hangs like an odor that has refused to fade. I used to be interested in being an activist, but mother talked it out of me ... (laughs), but really, whenever an injustice is being meted to a woman, the silent man/woman is a party to that injustice. (That is the activist in me rising ... lol!)

A beauty of creation is what a woman is, so many thoughts trying to gain ascendancy as I think about woman, a woman is a gift, a treasure, and should be treated as one.

Share your thoughts.

VALUE

Perception makes a whole world of difference. It determines worth. It is relative. The worth you place on something or someone determines their value to you. This goes a long way in determining how precious or irrelevant it is (they are) to you. Interestingly, your perception of a person or an item does not translate to the real value of that person or item, it only means that your value system is flawed. Discounting what is valuable, which you have been unable to discern, just means you get to enjoy little or nothing of that person or item.

Don't lose out on what is valuable just because you were unable to identify it. Some opportunities are a 'once in a lifetime'.

Live deliberately. Live well.

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The Journey to Grey (contd)

Long time o (that's a part of our greeting in this part of the world).These posts are few and far between, something has to be done about them...

Part of making progress on the journey to grey, is taking action(s) in line with decision(s). It is following up on those plans that make the day count, and worthwhile. I believe in one step at a time, just move from where you were. Staying on the same spot after a long while will feel disappointing when you realise time has been consumed.
 You may not be at the place you want to be yet, just don't remain where you have been for years. You will be proud of yourself when you look back and see how far you have come. Don't waste an opportunity to make evident progress.
These opportunities are presented everyday. It is said that they show up in work clothes so they sometimes are not easily identifiable.
I have realised that when one is interested in something, one's area of interest keeps showing up and that should be because that is what is priority on one's mind.
 I want to encourage you, as I also encourage myself. It is said, that "the opportunity of a lifetime must be seized within the lifetime of the opportunity". Will there be challenges? Of course! Can you surmount them? Definitely! There is a God that rules in the affairs of men, receive His strength. Don't be swayed by the challenges, it is a part of life and a part of your story that makes victory sweet.

I've said enough on this, or what I have said is sufficient. It is your turn, share your thoughts, let's learn from you.








 

The Journey to Grey...

This topic has been on my mind the whole week and I decided to put my thoughts out and process them here. So, here they are...
 Why 'journey to grey'? Think about it. When really does this journey start?

The day we let out our first cry on our first appearance on this earth, we embarked on that journey. Every day of our lives, is a day closer to greying. What differentiates one day from the other in our lives? Nothing. The choices we make and the way we spend our time, is the only distinguishing factor in each day. Greying comes suddenly, for some people. Before you are even aware of it, the times have changed and the years have passed. Suddenly, ten (10) or twenty (20) years ago feels like yesterday. Only the use of our time makes the difference.

 Living deliberately cannot be over-emphasized, living like each day would be a landmark in one's life, living like each day actually mattered, because it does.
 
... to be continued

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InSeCuRiTy

Times have changed, I think. When insecurity is heard these days, one of the first things that come to mind is terrorists, bombs, killings and the like.

There's another type of insecurity, it is with regards the emotions. Emotional insecurity does not start in one day. It is a process, and it blossoms when it is fed with what it wants to perceive.

The fruits of insecurity are constant misconceptions, distrust, miscommunication, and all these affect any blossoming relationship.

When one is convinced that someone cannot be trusted, and begins to see the need to stalk the person, it is a major mark of insecurity; strangely, these convictions may be founded on fallacy and misunderstandings. This may be debated or debatable, but this is my opinion about it. I feel it is very important to be secure in oneself, and not need the affirmation of another person's actions or inactions.
It may be disappointing to observe certain traits in someone, but it does not automatically term to losing one's peace over it. Be secure in who you are, be happy and be free.

In the event you have fallen victim to insecurity and it's traits, it is possible to be free from it. A living example is sharing her opinion.

Share your thoughts, I would like to learn from you.

Here We Are!

Here we are,  two weeks after my last post, and it is a new year!

 Wow! How time flies right?


Every new year, we are presented with the opportunity to re-strategize and do certain things better than we did the previous year. Just as every day gives us a clean sheet to write on, so does a new year.

 Some see them as resolutions; promises to themselves to make changes in their lives.


You probably want to know if I have a resolution... Well...I'm thinking in terms of better relationships, working as a team in the relationships that require teamwork, and pursue the dreams and desires I have either ignored, or been too scared to acknowledge. I desire to at least, start, and see them flesh up.

These thoughts team up in my mind, and I'm planning to skin them and live them out!

 How about you?

SPECIAL DAYS - 15th December ...

I wasn't to post so soon, but like the topic suggests, it's a special day!

Special days to me, are marked by dates or moments when something unique is remembered; or let me put it properly, it is the remembrance of unique events in one's life.

Today, 15th December, is such a day for me. It is so special that no matter how gloomy previous days were, at the dawning of 15th December, the climate suddenly changes, and I remember I have so much to be thankful for. I look forward to the day it will be set apart as a public holiday ;), I'm serious!


What is that special day for you?


Drop your thoughts!

FAMILY LOVE

Now, what makes family love so 'everything'?

This topic has been on my mind for a while. In a family where love is present, there is something really unique about it. There's joy, laughter, fights, more fights, little malice, reconciliation, and the cycle continues.


I find that every relationship has a climax point, and that's where the strength of the relationship is formed. Family relationships is one of those. If you have never been taken for granted, you probably are not in a family, you are alone. Yes, this is not cast in stone, but I find it existent in lots of families, and it is very normal because you are all familiar with each other, so there probably isn't anything 'special' about you to them, and I repeat, it is perfectly normal (even Jesus Christ was taken for granted) so don't despair.


Some of my friends regarded family love as the sweetest and it got me thinking. I'm aware some people do not understand what we are talking about, but it doesn't take away the uniqueness, beauty and honor in family love. I only pray they get to experience it also, and understand why we are so hyped about it.

Back to the reason...

Every family unit has the history of its members. Their strength, good points, weaknesses and shortcomings. They know what makes you tick, laugh uncontrollably, gets you upset, and raving mad. They've seen you unclothed, dirty, dressed up, with zits, broken skin, literally, everything about you. They can write your biography and not miss a detail. They have grown to love you unconditionally,  and you, them.

 That's what makes family love so sweet, the unconditional acceptance that we share.


Drop your thoughts, let's share ideas.

AFTER THE MISTAKE...

We learn everyday, and part of learning is missing it, and moving on. Did you take note? It's about missing it and moving on.

So you made a mistake, is the earth supposed to stop revolving? I don't think so. After the mistake, you learn from it and move on, and if there's nothing to learn from it, you learn how to avoid making that same mistake, and move on. Most important thing, is to move on, keep going.

Getting stuck in it doesn't help anyone. Even your critics won't have anything new to criticize anyways. You are not stagnant water, so just keep going ... there's a life after the mistake, live it and thrive!

DIFFERENCES

That's exactly what they are, as frustrating as they can be, just differences!

I find that every relationship is bound to encounter challenges at some point during its life cycle. Those challenges, I have discovered, are meant to be building blocks for that relationship. Unfortunately, when these challenges occur, some are quick to throw in the towel. While they are dynamic to the type of relationship, they are still within the purview of the relationship.

Yes, today, we are focusing on relationships.
 Anything that has life grows and blossoms. The proof of life of your relationship, is challenges or differences, so to speak, and they are best suited to the people involved. There is no challenge, I believe, that is too difficult to surmount. While every difference may not be resolved, there will always be a way around it, subject to the people involved (their commitment).

So, this is a challenge to you - Keep going and give what is required, because you have what it takes to handle the challenge(s).

WHAT WE WANT VS. WHAT WE DON'T WANT

I trust our week has been fruitful. Mine has been fruitful, life happens everyday right?

I have been thinking in this pattern over the past few weeks. We wake up and get ready to leave the house, and we're a little behind time, then we say, "I pray there's no traffic jam on the road". Now I've been thinking about why we pray the negative, thereby, saying what we don't want. We want to have a smooth drive to work right? Why not say, "I pray the road is free and I can get to work early". Simple right?

It seems we expect the worst, then pray for the best. This shouldn't be. Our hearts should be in consonance with our mouths. When you want to be the best in an exam, say what you want, not what you don't want. It's easy to say, "hmm, I pray that I don't fail this exam", it's laughable now that you are reading it right? The right thing to say should be what? Good, you got it! "I pray I excel in this exam!"

Another important point to note is, when you desire something, let that desire be what you want. For example, when you pray to excel in an exam, let your heart also desire to excel and forget about the fear of failure or the doubts about what you just desired, because it is your expectation that will manifest. Well, that is a subject for another day.

I hope this has impacted in our subconscious already. When you want something, say what you want, forget about what you don't want and stick with what you want.
Singleness of heart, clarity of purpose, that gets the job done.

MIND PLACES

Everyday, our minds visit places our physical bodies have not visited, some of these places are abstract. Some are beneficial, while others are simply disadvantageous. How do we get our minds to visit and remain in the places we desire?
Someone said 'mind training'... seriously? Is there something like that? Well, I wouldn't call it 'mind training', I would say 'decision making'.
Every millisecond, we make decisions that we are most often not even aware of ... Like what I am writing emanated from a decision.
Now, some decisions are almost automatic right? No. No decision is automatic. It may feel that way because we have made them overtime, and they are supposedly, a part of us.
I believe in 'starts'. I believe there is no place that is too small or big to start from. Everything that we see now started at some point or the other.
You want to think things that you like? DECIDE to think on those things, no matter how tempted you are to think otherwise, and with time, you will begin to think what you desire. Try it, and let me have your feedback.

Distractions.

Don't let anything weigh you down. The "bad things" that have happened to you, they are all distractions. Keep at that goal you want to achieve, stay focused.

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